Power of Gratitude

The attitude of gratitude is to be aware of the good that happens to us in life.

It’s easy to forget where we came from and the people who helped us to get where we are.

In general, we have very poor memory when it comes to remembering those who helped us in life and also WE ASSUME THAT WE DESERVE ALL.

 

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Being grateful means recognizing the good that happens in life, but it is not easy to feel gratitude, especially when we are trying to achieve goals in a hurry. It is essential to take a break, head out of the hole and see that we are surrounded by people who do so much for us.

 

We take for granted what we have. As if life were a company which hired us and was required to maintain our benefits or gifts.

 

According to author David Fischman, the formula of gratitude is:

 

A more humility, we have a greater sense that we do not deserve ALL.

In greater humility, we are not so important and nor do we expect a lot from others.

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In contrast, we value the small gestures of kindness.

 

Furthermore, a greater awareness of the gifts that life gives us, the greater the sense of gratitude.

 

Few people think that being alive, healthy, with many capabilities or that our family does not have a major problem is a gift. We just assume that we deserve.

 

People with disabilities, like Helen Keller, help us to remember that being healthy is a gift. She confesses:

“I have often thought it would be a blessing from above that every human being, during adulthood, went blind and deaf for a few days. Darkness would make him appreciate the treasure of the view and the silence would teach him to enjoy the sound.

I imagined what I would do if I was given that gift for three days only … Oh, the things I would see if I was given the gift of sight for only three days …!

As I am blind, want to give an advice to which they are not: enjoy your eyes as if tomorrow you were to run out of them, and do the same with everything you have. “

Each day we have life, health, and welfare of our family is a gift to be thankful.

 

Thank the person who helped you get the position you are currently in the course of your life. He could be your father, your mother, your brother, sister, a friend, a stranger who passed through your life and gave you hand for you to move on.

 

I suggest you do this exercise for happiness:

Reflect on the day happened and think about an event or situation that you feel grateful. Remember the fact. What happened? What gift did you receive? To who should be grateful?

Let the feeling of gratitude invades your mind and enjoy it (Adapted from Emmons 2008:11)

Practicing this exercise will fill us with happiness. Robert Emmons is one of the leading researchers on gratitude. In their study had a group of people take gratitude journals, writing about what they were thankful. Another control group will play write about other topics. Those who followed the gratitude journal felt happier, had fewer symptoms of illness and felt more satisfied with their lives as a whole.

 

In another similar study, it was shown that people who wrote about gratitude were 25 percent happier than the control group. The people who showed gratitude were more willing to help and serve others in comparison with the control group.

 

There are several reasons why gratitude helps us to be happier and the following three causes could be the most significant:

 

First, it reduces the phenomenon of adaptation. Being thankful we do not get used to what we have. In contrast, to feel gratitude, we become aware of our fortunes and the gifts that life gives us.

 

Second, be grateful focuses our attention on what we have and not what others have, avoiding envy and negative social comparisons. When we appreciate, we are focusing our attention on the good that happens to us in life. Focusing on the good brings us positive emotions in our lives.

 

And thirdly, feel gratitude makes us perceive a world of good and help us pay attention to the people around us. It helps us feel loved and appreciated by others and the divine.

 

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EXPRESSING ITS GRATITUDE TO THE PROBLEMS

 

Taking a class of Personal Enrichment in Los Angeles, California, I heard that in the Chinese language, the synonym of the word “problem” is the word “opportunity”.

 

And I think the problems will always be in our lives. However it is best to call the problem a challenge. We must learn to overcome that challenge comes in our life and grow as a human being. After overcoming that problem or challenge, you feel so great about yourself and the following problems or challenges will be easier to handle.

 

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I do not know if you noticed that when one is a child, and for some reason was sick with fever. And after overcoming the bad time, the child literally grew in stature one, two or three centimeters. Notice that with a child in your family and verify. When you are an adult, when faced with a problem or challenge, is like fever in children. After overcoming that problem or challenge, you grow as a human being; you become a more mature human being and feel like a superhero. I can guarantee it.

 

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Exercise of reflection:

 

Think about a difficult issue at this time and have it worried, afraid, anger or frustration. Now, mentally, thanks for the difficulty you are experiencing.

Give thanks to life or God for the difficulties being experienced. Try to see how it’s growing, to face this problem. What are you learning? Perhaps you are learning patience, tolerance, understanding, tenacity or another positive feature. Stay a moment feeling gratitude for this problem that life presents.

 

Those who developed the previous exercise of reflection have become aware of the benefits. When we thank life or God for a problem, we take control of it. It leaves a feeling that if we can handle and also everything is happening to us we will benefit in the future. It is an excellent stress management strategy and helps us see the positive side of problems.

 

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Exercise of gratitude:

 

Think of someone close to you whom you have not had a chance to give thanks for what he did for you. It may be a family member, a friend or a person who disinterestedly helped.

Write in a notebook a letter of thanks for this individual. Be generous and grateful. Perhaps this person has not done everything right; however you should focus on the positive aspects of support. Stop reading and do the exercise.

 

This exercise is one of the most important and I strongly suggest you do. Most people, who do this exercise, loose and stir tears remembering everything you have done for them. Some thank people who have died and wonder: Why did not I do this before?

Why not tell her how much she was grateful? Others realize just when they write a letter of thanks that have been helped or who have given gifts that were not really aware.

Please, do the exercise and I assure you will be very happy. Doing this exercise will allow you to find the treasure of gratitude, a treasure that, the more you delivery the more it grows inside you and makes it happier.

 

If you know someone who needs this information, please pass the word.

 

Best wishes

 

Clement V

 

Remember when

A few days ago some friends met their first wedding anniversary, to whom I wish happiness and have so many more anniversaries to have the best memories of their lives.

These days, couples, last a short time with their relationship. It’s a little difficult to find couples who reaching two, five or many more years as a couple. The promise that was made at the beginning of the relationship by sharing the good and bad times breaks very quickly. What is happening with the society these days? What most couples are failing?

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Perhaps to improve in this area, it would be good idea to motivate us to take as an example the movie “The Notebook”
This movie is more than just a typical love story.

The story begins in a psychiatric hospital where two elderly played by Gena Rowlands and James Garner. He starts the day by reading a story: The Notebook. This story takes us to the 40’s, a small village called Seabrook, North Carolina, visited by the marriage Hamilton, and Alli (Rachel McAdams) daughter of 17. There she met at a fair Noah Callohum (Ryan Gosling) and at the insistence of him, Alli accepts a date. There begins a beautiful friendship that turns into a passionate love of summer. But all is not an easy ride. They belong to two different worlds, she is upper class and he is a simple worker in the factory town. The opposition mainly from her mother makes the end of their idyll be accelerated to take Alli of the town before the end of summer.

Noah writes to Alli a letter each day for a year, but the mother intercepts these 365 letters that do not reach their target.
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Outbreak of World War II, He enlisted in the army and she was a volunteer nurse. In the hospital where she was volunteer nurse she meets Lon (James Marsden) a handsome, rich, soldier with which begins a relationship.

After the war Noah returns to town and buy the house with which have always dreamed him and Alli. By coincidence he sees her in the city, but she is with Lon, with whom she engages.

Before she gets marriage with Lon, Alli decides to return a few days to Seabrook, where she be reunited with her love of summer, Noah.

This story told by the elder, is interspersed with images of the history of this old man and his listener in the hospital.

Admittedly, many things are predictable in the movie, some even too much. It’s a beautiful story, in which love fight against everything, until the end of their days.

Where Alli asks Noah: “Do you think our love can do that we can go together”?

And Noah replied: “I know our love can do whatever we want”

I hope this story of love, has motivated to be together with your partner.



If you know someone who needs this information, please spread the word.

Best wishes

Clement V

The opportunity to meet you

The opportunity to meet you was the most beautiful thing ever happened to me.
You and your partner could you be in the picture shown here.

Maybe you are afraid to make a decision to meet someone in your life.
And always you may wonder:

“And what happens if he hurt me.”
“And what happens if he left me.”
“And what happens if he dies.”
“That would be the end for me.”

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That could be your biggest mistake in life, if you do not take chances.
In love, you have to risk.

And to decrease the risk
You have to get to know your partner,
Going out both more often
By sharing likes and dislikes,
Following the same direction to the goal set for both.

You have to take risks that sometimes there are no second chances in life.
If you do not risk, you always wonder:

What would have happened to me if I had taken the train, that wagon of the love that only happens once? If I had drifted therefore that one day this guy told me that it was called Cupid.

I always wonder what will happen at the end when I get to my destination, and realize I’ve been a coward, I did not have the courage to make that journey with you. For fear of the people I end up being just your friend.

What would become of me if you were here to paint my gray life, with the color of your caresses?
And now, what would I be if you were with me?

You decide.

Best wishes

Clemente V

Help after Super Typhoon Haiyan hit Philippines

The Philippines is reeling from the mass destruction caused by Super typhoon Haiyan, occurred on November 9, 2013 which officials estimate left up to 10,000 dead, one of the most powerful storms on record.

The typhoon, known locally as Yolanda, hit the Philippines on Friday November 9, 2013, with fierce winds and heavy rains shredding homes, uprooting trees and flinging cars and boats

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In the coastal city of Tacloban, people ransacked shops, while food and medical stations were swamped by those in need. Rescue workers dug through rubble and mud in search of survivors.

The government estimated 20,000 houses were damaged and 9.5 million people were affected by the storm. More than 477,000 people were displaced by Haiyan, with 400,000 of them taking refuge in evacuation centers, the National Disaster and Risk Reduction Management Council said.

Several organizations are offering support help victims of the Supper Typhoon Haiyan relief. Here are the ways you can help:

 

NetHope, a collaboration of the world’s leading humanitarian response organizations is mobilizing efforts to support aid agencies responding in the region.
 

American Red Cross is accepting donations to Philippines Typhoon relief and is working closely with The Philippines Red Cross to help those most in need.
 

World Vision is mobilizing in response to the typhoon Haiyan.
 

Save the Children is responding to the needs of children and families affected by the Typhoon Haiyan and its aftermath. Donations can be made to Save the Children’s Philippines Typhoon Children in Emergency Fund.
 

International Medical Corps is responding to the health needs of the disaster’s victims.
 

This disaster can happen anywhere in the world. Together we can save many lives. Now our Philippine brothers need our help. Every penny, every donation no matter how small, it will go adding to the great help that is needed now in Philippines.
 

Best wishes
 

Clemente V

Practice What You Preach

Have you ever been reprimanded by somebody? Or maybe was the other way around.

Have you ever reprimanded to somebody?

 

This act is known as preaching, which is a speech or sermon moral content, or it is also propagate ideas or doctrine. Saying this in another way easier to understand is to advise or reprimand a person.

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The problem is that we are very good to give advice or rebuking but we are not good to follow our own advice. To give an example in Facebook and other social networks, many people try to advise their “fans” or followers, through images or ads, which is fine, but the person who posted this just made ​​”copy and paste the picture “of what he wanted to convey. Saying this in another way, what he did was “Repeat the words like a parrot”.

 

Before publishing or give any advice, it would be good to meditate if this counsel could serve and apply yourself, transforming the famous “Do what I say, not as I do” in a deep “Do what I say and do.” Sometimes many of us think that we own the truth and did not hear other opinions of our family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, etc. Perhaps they could be right and one being wrong.

 

Being congruent is the concept. That is, our mind, our body, our actions are aligned to the objectives and principles. Then, each of the people who know us will know what our homework and how we work every day to do it. The pleasure, happiness, desire, responsibility, passion, each of these aspects is reflected in your daily action.

 

You have to “Practice what you preach” every day for a solid reputation and “Do not repeat the words like a parrot“.

 

You decide

 

Clemente V